Comments on: How Not to Listen — Know the Answer Before the Other Guy Talks http://www.lizstrauss.com/2007/05/31/everyones-business/how-not-to-listen-know-the-answer-before-the-other-guy-talks/ Be Irresistible Fri, 12 Mar 2010 15:22:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Liz Strauss http://www.lizstrauss.com/2007/05/31/everyones-business/how-not-to-listen-know-the-answer-before-the-other-guy-talks/comment-page-1/#comment-12560 Liz Strauss Fri, 01 Jun 2007 12:27:31 +0000 http://www.lizstrauss.com/2007/05/31/everyones-business/how-not-to-listen-know-the-answer-before-the-other-guy-talks/#comment-12560 Nature abhors a vacuum. Human nature even moreso. Possibly we do because we don't know what will fill it and it leaves us time to think. We are absolutely no good at waiting for ourselves or others. I'm learning to think my thoughts before I say them. It's really quite fulfilling to know what I'm going to say. I find if I tell someeone, I'm thinking on that I usually get plenty of room to do so. It's as if the fear of silence is replaced by generosity. Nature abhors a vacuum. Human nature even moreso. Possibly we do because we don’t know what will fill it and it leaves us time to think. We are absolutely no good at waiting for ourselves or others.

I’m learning to think my thoughts before I say them. It’s really quite fulfilling to know what I’m going to say. I find if I tell someeone, I’m thinking on that I usually get plenty of room to do so. It’s as if the fear of silence is replaced by generosity.

]]> By: Dawud Miracle http://www.lizstrauss.com/2007/05/31/everyones-business/how-not-to-listen-know-the-answer-before-the-other-guy-talks/comment-page-1/#comment-12514 Dawud Miracle Fri, 01 Jun 2007 03:19:08 +0000 http://www.lizstrauss.com/2007/05/31/everyones-business/how-not-to-listen-know-the-answer-before-the-other-guy-talks/#comment-12514 I find myself sometimes wanting to talk 'over' someone when they don't give me time to think about what they're saying and how I wish to respond. It seems the open space that listening first, then thinking, then speaking requires is uncomfortable for people. Why? I find myself sometimes wanting to talk ‘over’ someone when they don’t give me time to think about what they’re saying and how I wish to respond. It seems the open space that listening first, then thinking, then speaking requires is uncomfortable for people. Why?

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