Feb26

Five Things to Be to Make a Relationship

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PERFECT VIRTUAL MANAGER

Why do I tell everyone I meet that I am a relationship blogger? Why do I ask those who ask a favor, if they mind if I get to know them first?

I want them to get to know me. I want us to get to know each other. Business — life — is about relationships.

“The lesson is: like it or not, life is a popularity contest and what makes people popular is being likeable” says Tim Sanders in his book The Likeability Factor: How to Boost Your L-Factor and Achieve Your Life’s Dreams

Karen Ruby explains how to start out in a likeable fashion in her post from last June by outlining and explaining these five points.

  • Be aware
  • Express friendliness
  • Be relevant
  • Be empathetic
  • Be real

Someone wrote to me once wondering why I had not asked for his wisdom on networking. Then he explained that, through some fluke, I was not in his thousands of contacts. In that message left only his dot com address. I had to go to his blog to find a way to answer him back.

Relationships — not contacts — are the currency of networking and business. His relationship with me was dependent upon my response to what he had said. The opposite was also true. Relationships grow or diminish in value.

Do I risk on intelligence and redemption, or do I invest on a safer bet?

Liz Strauss

Behind every Successful business is an Outstanding Manager. — PVM

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  • http://www.thekissbusiness.co.uk Karin

    Hi Liz

    First thing that came to mind when reading the five points: all are ‘outgoing’ traits – focused on the ‘other’, not on yourself.

    The next example you give: ‘why didn’t you ask me’ is the proof of the pudding: it should have been: shall I give you my knowledge?

  • http://www.thekissbusiness.co.uk Karin

    Hi Liz

    First thing that came to mind when reading the five points: all are ‘outgoing’ traits – focused on the ‘other’, not on yourself.

    The next example you give: ‘why didn’t you ask me’ is the proof of the pudding: it should have been: shall I give you my knowledge?

  • http://www.lettingmebe.blogspot.com Liz Strauss

    Hi Karin!
    You’re so right so right. I was speaking to him, not to you in that statement. I should have made that more clear.

    Thank you for bring out this point. I didn’t do it well enough.

    Thank you!

  • http://www.lettingmebe.blogspot.com Liz Strauss

    Hi Karin!
    You’re so right so right. I was speaking to him, not to you in that statement. I should have made that more clear.

    Thank you for bring out this point. I didn’t do it well enough.

    Thank you!

  • http://www.thekissbusiness.co.uk Karin

    So, in fact another ‘fluke’ that (seemingly controversially) makes a perfectly good point ;-)

  • http://www.thekissbusiness.co.uk Karin

    So, in fact another ‘fluke’ that (seemingly controversially) makes a perfectly good point ;-)

  • http://www.lettingmebe.blogspot.com Liz Strauss

    Exactly. :)

  • http://www.lettingmebe.blogspot.com Liz Strauss

    Exactly. :)

  • http://www.thekissbusiness.co.uk Karin

    Which brnings us back to the last sentence:

    “Do I risk on intelligence and redemption, or do I invest on a safer bet?”

    Coming full circle
    ;-)

  • http://www.thekissbusiness.co.uk Karin

    Which brnings us back to the last sentence:

    “Do I risk on intelligence and redemption, or do I invest on a safer bet?”

    Coming full circle
    ;-)

  • http://www.lettingmebe.blogspot.com Liz Strauss

    Hi Karen,
    And in the end, it all comes down to
    1. what is my world view — optimistic or pessimistic?
    2. what is my experience of having made this bet in the past?
    3. what is my belief in the value of relationships?
    4. what is my belief in my ability and the chance of forging one in this situation?

    Bet you can guess what I did. :)

  • http://www.lettingmebe.blogspot.com Liz Strauss

    Hi Karen,
    And in the end, it all comes down to
    1. what is my world view — optimistic or pessimistic?
    2. what is my experience of having made this bet in the past?
    3. what is my belief in the value of relationships?
    4. what is my belief in my ability and the chance of forging one in this situation?

    Bet you can guess what I did. :)

  • http://www.thekissbusiness.co.uk Karin

    Recurring topic of growing comes to mind (as it should, because we keep growing, we can’t stop that from happening even if we tried).

    Was about to post another pondering on Stop/Start about the contagious effect of positive and optimism – surrounding yourself with people who are – which relates directly to your ‘questions’:
    If you’re optimistic you’re more willing to learn from ‘past’ bets; effects your belief in the value of relationships (positive effect) and effects self-belief in abilities.

    Think we just found the ‘philisophy’ of the week ;-)

  • http://www.thekissbusiness.co.uk Karin

    Recurring topic of growing comes to mind (as it should, because we keep growing, we can’t stop that from happening even if we tried).

    Was about to post another pondering on Stop/Start about the contagious effect of positive and optimism – surrounding yourself with people who are – which relates directly to your ‘questions’:
    If you’re optimistic you’re more willing to learn from ‘past’ bets; effects your belief in the value of relationships (positive effect) and effects self-belief in abilities.

    Think we just found the ‘philisophy’ of the week ;-)

  • http://www.lettingmebe.blogspot.com Liz Strauss

    Karin!
    That’s brilliant!

  • http://www.lettingmebe.blogspot.com Liz Strauss

    Karin!
    That’s brilliant!

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