Comments on: The Two Most Important Words for Anything http://www.lizstrauss.com/2006/04/28/everyones-business/the-two-most-important-words-for-anything/ Be Irresistible Wed, 08 Feb 2012 16:07:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Successful Blog - Why? Because — How Much More Do You Need? http://www.lizstrauss.com/2006/04/28/everyones-business/the-two-most-important-words-for-anything/comment-page-1/#comment-118 Successful Blog - Why? Because — How Much More Do You Need? Sat, 03 Jun 2006 14:45:39 +0000 http://www.lizstrauss.com/2006/04/28/everyones-business/the-two-most-important-words-for-anything/#comment-118 [...] Brian talked about the power of because and you. I’ve talked about because and you also. T his week, It’s a Numeric Life covered a study much like the one I first encountered about the word because. [...] [...] Brian talked about the power of because and you. I’ve talked about because and you also. T his week, It’s a Numeric Life covered a study much like the one I first encountered about the word because. [...]

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.lizstrauss.com/2006/04/28/everyones-business/the-two-most-important-words-for-anything/comment-page-1/#comment-92 Liz Strauss Mon, 22 May 2006 23:59:46 +0000 http://www.lizstrauss.com/2006/04/28/everyones-business/the-two-most-important-words-for-anything/#comment-92 Hi Max, I understand what you are saying. I hope I didn't imply otherwise in what I wrote. What I was trying to say is that most folks I've met take the I-statement too literally and use it as their focus rather than the people in the conflict. It's the people -- two equal humans who have a problem that need to meet and resolve the conflict. I appreciate you giving me the benefit of the doubt. :) Liz Hi Max,
I understand what you are saying. I hope I didn’t imply otherwise in what I wrote. What I was trying to say is that most folks I’ve met take the I-statement too literally and use it as their focus rather than the people in the conflict. It’s the people — two equal humans who have a problem that need to meet and resolve the conflict.

I appreciate you giving me the benefit of the doubt. :)
Liz

]]> By: Liz Strauss http://www.lizstrauss.com/2006/04/28/everyones-business/the-two-most-important-words-for-anything/comment-page-1/#comment-85565 Liz Strauss Mon, 22 May 2006 23:59:00 +0000 http://www.lizstrauss.com/2006/04/28/everyones-business/the-two-most-important-words-for-anything/#comment-85565 Hi Max, I understand what you are saying. I hope I didn't imply otherwise in what I wrote. What I was trying to say is that most folks I've met take the I-statement too literally and use it as their focus rather than the people in the conflict. It's the people -- two equal humans who have a problem that need to meet and resolve the conflict. I appreciate you giving me the benefit of the doubt. :) Liz Hi Max,
I understand what you are saying. I hope I didn’t imply otherwise in what I wrote. What I was trying to say is that most folks I’ve met take the I-statement too literally and use it as their focus rather than the people in the conflict. It’s the people — two equal humans who have a problem that need to meet and resolve the conflict.

I appreciate you giving me the benefit of the doubt. :)
Liz

]]> By: Max Leibman http://www.lizstrauss.com/2006/04/28/everyones-business/the-two-most-important-words-for-anything/comment-page-1/#comment-85 Max Leibman Mon, 22 May 2006 00:38:10 +0000 http://www.lizstrauss.com/2006/04/28/everyones-business/the-two-most-important-words-for-anything/#comment-85 Well, I think the I-statement camp isn't against "You" statements--it's just that the kinds of "You" statements most commonly made are the projection-kind. "You are so ____," or, "I can't believe you could ____ ____ like ____." They put our motives and biases into the others' hearts. That little pedantic qualifier aside, though [:-)] I think you've got something solid. A lot of empathic you-focus on the front end ("Seek first to understand, then to be understood," in Coveyspeak) makes a world of difference. Well, I think the I-statement camp isn’t against “You” statements–it’s just that the kinds of “You” statements most commonly made are the projection-kind. “You are so ____,” or, “I can’t believe you could ____ ____ like ____.” They put our motives and biases into the others’ hearts.

That little pedantic qualifier aside, though [:-)] I think you’ve got something solid. A lot of empathic you-focus on the front end (“Seek first to understand, then to be understood,” in Coveyspeak) makes a world of difference.

]]> By: Max Leibman http://www.lizstrauss.com/2006/04/28/everyones-business/the-two-most-important-words-for-anything/comment-page-1/#comment-85564 Max Leibman Mon, 22 May 2006 00:38:00 +0000 http://www.lizstrauss.com/2006/04/28/everyones-business/the-two-most-important-words-for-anything/#comment-85564 Well, I think the I-statement camp isn't against "You" statements--it's just that the kinds of "You" statements most commonly made are the projection-kind. "You are so ____," or, "I can't believe you could ____ ____ like ____." They put our motives and biases into the others' hearts. That little pedantic qualifier aside, though [:-)] I think you've got something solid. A lot of empathic you-focus on the front end ("Seek first to understand, then to be understood," in Coveyspeak) makes a world of difference. Well, I think the I-statement camp isn’t against “You” statements–it’s just that the kinds of “You” statements most commonly made are the projection-kind. “You are so ____,” or, “I can’t believe you could ____ ____ like ____.” They put our motives and biases into the others’ hearts.

That little pedantic qualifier aside, though [:-)] I think you’ve got something solid. A lot of empathic you-focus on the front end (“Seek first to understand, then to be understood,” in Coveyspeak) makes a world of difference.

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